Men are polygamous
Most straight relationships survive on the intention of sexual fidelity. Most gay ones survive by abandoning that.
After ten years of conventional marriage Emma and Chris are in trouble in the bedroom.
Alex’s relationship with Leo is sexually open. Could this work for Emma and Chris too?
What can the straight and gay couples learn from each other? What defines a relationship? What is it for? And what of those for whom the sexual game is potentially deadly?
Many a perfectly sound heterosexual marriage has foundered on the rock of sexual infidelity. Many a gay man ends up alone because he cannot commit to another. As same-sex civil partnerships, mirroring marriage, further the process of normalising homosexuality in our society, what can the sexualities, and the sexes learn from each other? About staying together? About commitment? About meeting their respective needs? About individuality and freedom?
Discovering the nature of the relationship which their gay friends, Alex and Leo, enjoy, Chris and Emma are tempted to follow their example. But they soon find out that their heterosexual lives are subject to different pressures. They have to look deep into their own desires, needs and plans for the future to find a way forward.
Alex and Leo too find that there’s more at stake than the pleasures of the flesh. Their apparently carefree, hedonistic approach is severely challenged when Alex’s frustrated paternal instincts are triggered by one of his students, and Leo’s casual encounter with a young Muslim endangers the boy’s life.
Sometimes funny, sometimes challenging, sometimes moving Higamus Hogamus explores the different needs of men and women and of gays and straights, and challenges the presumption of a link between the sexual imperative and enduring love.
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